How Do We Parent? The challenges and ways to overcome them

The Reality of Parenting

When you’re a parent, you will have good and bad days, and there is nothing strange about that. But the most important thing is to find the strength to pick yourself up whenever you fall down.

Raising Independent Thinkers

When children are constantly told what to do and how to do it, they may struggle to develop independence, critical thinking skills, and the ability to take responsibility for their actions. Instead of making decisions for our children, we should guide them and provide them with opportunities to practice decision-making in a safe and supportive environment. By teaching children how to weigh options, consider consequences, and make informed choices, we empower them to become independent and confident individuals.

You Are Not Alone in Your Parenting Journey

I have put together some positive quotes, and to let you know you’re not alone in your struggles. I hope they will help inspire you to be a better parent. They’re here to help you achieve the ultimate goal of gentle parenting: making your children happy.

Words of Encouragement

“Parenthood remains the greatest single preserve of the amateur.” - Alvin Toffler.

"I think when you become a parent you go from being a star in the movie of your own life to the supporting player in the movie of someone else’s.” - Craig Ferguson.

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” - Anne Frank.

“Parenthood… It’s about guiding the next generation, and forgiving the last.” - Peter Krause.

“I became the kind of parent my mother was to me.” - Maya Angelou.

“Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” - Oprah Winfrey.

“Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad, and that’s why I call you dad, because you are so special to me. You taught me the game and you taught me how to play it right.” - Wade Boggs.

Misunderstanding Gentle Parenting

Parents can and are misinterpreting “Gentle Parenting.” Simply put, gentle parenting is a softer, gentler approach to parenting. Parents who practice gentle parenting use consistency, patience, and boundaries to guide their children. It relies less on blame and shame.

While I love some of the aspects of gentle parenting, parents sometimes misinterpret it. It is important to remember that gentle parenting does NOT mean:

• Eliminating consequences or boundaries

• Having your children dictate what is best for themselves

• That there should be any less respect for the parent

It is important to find a balance between the parent and child relationship while still remember that the parent is in charge.

Screen Time and Its Impact

Potentially one of the biggest contributing factors to our weakening generation is the use of screen time and children being exposed to social media at young ages. Excessive screen time has been linked to a huge number of issues, including decreased physical activity, poor sleep, social isolation, and difficulties with attention and concentration. Cyberbullying and dopamine surges (shown to happen with scrolling) also are huge problems for our children.

As parents, it’s crucial that we set boundaries and establish screen time limits for our children.To avoid raising little technology-zombies, we must prioritise real-world experiences, outdoor play, and face-to-face interactions.

Talk About What Matters

It is more important than ever to focus on family. Talk to your children about your family values - whether it is faith, work ethic, or morals. As parents, we have a tremendous opportunity and responsibility to shape the next generation.

Parenting with Openness and Empathy

Parenting takes time to adapt to. We often parent the way we were. This is not the most positive way to parent. Be open to new methods, try and understand your child’s emotions and allow your children to feel them. Look at opportunities to communicate, to strengthen bonds. Be real - our children often mirror us, so if we can’t manage our feelings or communicate effectively, how can we expect them to?